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Friday, December 27, 2019

Patience: A Key to Progress in Recovery

New Year’s Eve is just four short days away, which means that now is an excellent time to start thinking about resolutions. For men and women in recovery, it is essential to always keep your focus on ways to strengthen one’s program. While spending too much time fixating on the future can be harmful, setting realistic, achievable milestones for the coming year is beneficial.

Long-term sobriety is a continual process that requires daily commitment to practice the principles of recovery. At times, you might find it challenging to keep going to meetings day after day; sometimes, you may not feel like sharing your experience, strength, and hope with others. Still, you know that if you fall back into old ways of thinking and stop putting recovery first, then you will likely find yourself again in the disease cycle of addiction.

At The Haven, we understand how difficult it is to hold on to the progress you have made. We know that the disease is ever on the lookout for chinks in your armor. One wrong decision could lead you toward relapse, which is why it’s so vital that you stay on the path.

If you are in your first year of recovery, then it means that you are still finding your way. Learning how to adopt and adhere to the principles of recovery day after day takes practice and repetition. Those who stay the course of long-term recovery are individuals who put their needs before their wants; they are people who appreciate that the miracles of recovery will not happen overnight. Patience is one of the essential virtues for men and women in sobriety.

Perhaps you feel that good things are not coming your way fast enough even though you are doing the Work? It’s normal to feel impatient about progress, and if that is the case, maybe you will consider being more patient as a resolution for the new year.

Patience is Key to Progress in Recovery

Addicts and alcoholics want what they want when they want it, as the saying goes. Impulsivity is something that people with alcohol and substance use disorders share in common. Getting clean and sober does not mean that impatience will magically disappear; it’s a trait that men and women have to work hard to break.

It’s vital to remember that years of chemical dependency leave a trail of wreckage in its wake. When you got to treatment or started attending meetings, it’s safe to say that you had many areas of your life that were in disarray. In rehab, you learned that one of the steps to achieving long-term recovery would be repairing the damage brought about by addiction. You probably also learned that this was going to take time.

Some things can be rectified quickly, while other issues might take years. The latter can be hard for some people to stomach. However, if you trust in the process and be patient with the progress made, then there isn’t anything that you can’t achieve.

Achieving progress in recovery is a marathon, not a sprint. Each day, remind yourself that you are in no rush; if you are clean and sober and following direction, then you are right where you are supposed to be.

“I can’t fast forward time and I can’t make people move faster,” says Nedra Glover Tawwab, a licensed clinical social worker. “I can’t manipulate those things; the only thing I can manipulate is me.” 

Whether you have a week sober or a year, regularly take stock the small achievements you make from one week to the next. Reminding yourself of the little milestones will help you stay positive about being able to achieve the larger goals.

Take a deep breath whenever you are feeling impatient, and keep calm. 

A Productive New Year

The Haven at Pismo is hopeful that you will put your recovery first on New Year’s Eve. Moreover, please be sure that whatever resolutions you make, that they are reasonable and realistic. Setting overly ambitious goals can result in an upset when your expectations are not met; talk to your sponsor about where you’d like to be in the next 365 days. They can help you chart a course so that 2020 is a productive year in recovery.

Please contact The Haven if sobriety is a resolution you would like to see realized next year. We provide medically supervised care to help men and women break the cycle of addiction and get on the path to long-term recovery. The Haven is the perfect place to renew to your best today.