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Monday, July 9, 2018

Curbing Your Inner Critic

inner criticHarsh words against yourself are harmful to your recovery. That’s because negative self-talk – or calling yourself things like “worthless,” “selfish” or “underserving of love” – can cause you to spiral into negative thought patterns. The result: an increased risk of relapse. 

Controlling your inner critic takes a bit of practice, but it is possible. You can start by paying attention to your positive traits and behaviors – even small stuff – and you may even consider keeping a running list. For example, did you carve out time to cook a healthful meal or mediate for 10 minutes today or volunteer this week? Focusing on things that make you feel proud will result in a much more positive and productive dialogue with yourself. 

Here are some other ideas to tame your inner critic and create an inner dialogue that fuels your recovery success: 
  • Treat yourself like a good friend. You certainly wouldn’t judge or berate a good friend, so why is it OK to do it to you? Give yourself the gift of gentleness, kindness and forgiveness as you journey toward sobriety.
  • Find an affirmation. Some examples: “I can do this” or “I deserve a better life” – whatever you choose, make it short so it can quickly replace negative thoughts. 
  • Counter overly critical thoughts. If you find yourself thinking, “I’m not good at anything” stop and replace it with a more realistic statement like, “I’m good at some things and need to work more on others.” Making an ongoing effort to convert pessimistic thoughts into more accurate statements.
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